"U do X = I feel Y"

y=mx+b

Was my favorite formula in math bc as long as you plug the numbers in correctly, the problem would be solved!


As you Kings & Queens know from last week's post, I am working on Not Fighting.

Ugh...


There are far better ways to communicate being hurt.

I am employing any and all help in learning this new non-combative language ;)

"U do X= I feel Y"
-This is the advice given to me by a paid professional.

With this formula it's a method of articulating how you feel and telling the other person without it becoming a fight.

My goal is...

Next time I feel like speaking in tongues like a demon spewing my hurt and anger...

Rather...

*Breathe
*Acknowledge the feelings of hurt and rage.
*Breathe
*Articulate what precisely it is that I am feeling.
*Breathe
*Solve the problem at hand:

Solve for X: What did someone else do that made you upset?

Solve for Y: How did this make you feel?

Plug it in: You do X and that makes me feel Y.

Break it down like a formula.

Seems less daunting now!!!

When you get a moment to calmly tell the other person the formula, do it...kindly :)

This is a way not to fight, accuse, isolate, blame...

Today, are you as cool as a cucumber when you get upset? Or are you a head spinning vomit hurt spitting demon?!?

Either way...Wouldn't it be nice to kindly articulate what you are feeling!

Plug this formula into your love life:
"U do X=I feel Y"

Let me know how it works for ya!
Bc...ya'll know I'll be telling you :)))

XoYoXoY