Spiritual Surrender Checklist

The shame of not being able to get pregnant is real. I experienced that as well as the shame of not being where I wanted us to be. 

But...

The lesson I learned is that the us needs to want the same thing that the individual wants. 

So...

I was trucking along towards the us goals while my partner didn't want the same goal. He never said it out loud. He just acted out. Out of the marriage. Out of our friendship. Out of my life. 

It's odd. 

How one day you can be thick as thieves with a man and the next day strangers. 

Break-ups happen and sh*t goes down. I've never experienced it like this before. Bonkers. This is for a future GSTQ post...

But...

For now...

https://youtu.be/7yiCMxp8Kw4

This YouTube video, of Gabby Bernstein at Oprah's Super Souls Sunday, struck a bunch of cords at once for me in the moment earlier. 

The shame of not being able to control what you want for yourself and your future. 

The ability to surrender.

The knowledge that it's a choice. 

Taking it to a spiritual plane. 

Gonna try Gabby's 5 steps to Spiritual Surrender:

"1. Take your hands off the wheel through prayer.
When you feel fear, that’s a sure sign you’re relying on your own strength instead of the strength of the Universe. The Universe is always ready to support you, but it won’t step in until you step aside. So surrender through prayer."

****Been DEF doing this one lately fo sho!****

"2. Appreciate what’s thriving.

Instead of focusing on goals and the outcomes you want, redirect your focus on what you do have. Celebrate everything beautiful in your life. Tell the people close to you how much you love and appreciate it. Take time each day to devote your attention to what is already thriving in your life."

***Gotta do this more! Fo sho!***

"3. Recognize that obstacles are detours in the right direction.

For me, what seemed to be an obstacle was actually a detour toward my greatest healing. I had healing work I had to do to become a mother, and through the steps of spiritual surrender I was able to uncover the dark shadows that needed to be brought to the light. Trust the detour."

***Amen, my sista! If this uncracking of my former life never happened I would not be where and who I am now. Still...gotta work on trusting the detour. Dare I say thanking it?!!***

"4. Ask the Universe for a sign.

I spent a year not trying to conceive and instead focusing on myself. But recently, when I began to put my attention back on my goal, I noticed my old need to control come back. So I practiced these steps and centered back into the Universe, surrendering through prayer and focusing on what was thriving.

One afternoon I saw 5 wild turkeys outside my window. Later that evening, during my meditation, I received an intuitive message to look up the meaning of coming across turkeys. So I did my research and learned that they represent fertility! The Universe will give you signs and winks if you ask for them. Ask for a sign and pay attention to what you receive. Be in wonder of the guidance all around you!

***I'm a witch, so I always am seeing the connections of life and where there are nature's high fives happening! Conjure more would be my wish;)***

"5. When you think you’ve surrendered, surrender more.

Faith is a muscle. You strengthen it through constant contact with God. All too often what happens is that when we get spiritual, we start feeling really good — to the point that we think we no longer need those daily spiritual practices.

But there’s a reason it’s called a practice. So practice surrendering every day. Because when we are certain that we are being supported, we can afford to wait, and wait without anxiety.

Begin now with a simple prayer. You can say this prayer every morning:

Where would you have me go? What would you have me do? What would you have me say? And to whom?"

***I do not surrender. This is my biggest hurdle. I fight. I control. I push. Until, I have to have to have to surrender. Grrr...Gonna def work on this one!***

Today, Do you raise the white flag?!?

Is it ez for you to surrender?

Or are you like me, always fixing and tweaking, thinking we can get through anything?!?

Aye ya yay! 

"Surrender MORE." 

Maybe that's for you. 

And that's uhmazing. 

But...

For some of us King & Queens, just the idea of waiving the white flag makes us think that we gave up. 

Gave in.

Threw in the towel. 

Nope. 

Sometimes, surrendering is the next stage of the fight. 

Do you have the courage to do it? 

Xoxo