Dream Sequence

Have you ever seen the movie Grey Gardens? If you haven't RUN to Netflix & watch it! It is Utterly Fascinating! Grey Gardens is a documentary film based on the everyday lives of former socialites...
turned reclusive, Edith Ewing Bouvier Beale (1895–1977), known as "Big Edie", and her daughter Edith Bouvier Beale (1917–2002), known as "Little Edie". The two women lived together at Grey Gardens, a dilapidated  mansion in East Hampton, New York. 

They lived for decades with fleas, raccoon infestations, no running water, & a zillion cats! 

Meanwhile, the outside world looks on in wonderment as the women tell their stories first hand.  

How did they get to this point?!?!?


The Edie's have no clue that they are stuck! 

They are caught in time in this sequence. 

They wake up and time stands still for them. 

As the physical world falls down around them they are STUCK in their dreams of the past. 

Constantly talking about who they once were and who they could have been. 

The Edie's were stuck in a major Dream Sequence! 

Dream Sequence is a term I came up with to describe a sustained unhealthy thought pattern consistently lived out on a daily basis for years and years.  

A Dream Sequence is a state of mind. Trauma happens: loss of loved one, divorce  joy long gone, hoarding, molestation, betrayal, stealing, physical abuse, mental abuse & inter family trauma. 

This trauma results in us getting Stuck in this dream state where time stops and growth no longer happens.  

People in this state Choose to stay in this Dream Sequence out of confusion.

People in a Dream Sequence are simply CONFUSED!  

They keep reliving their past and trying to justify the outcomes of what their life is today. 

A  Dream Sequence is a Constant state of dejection & failure. 
They relive their past in hopes of understanding where they went wrong. 

But...


Never really letting go of the events and loving themselves enough to know they did the best they could & forgiving others in the sequence. 

They just keep living their life today as it was in the past, even though today is a new day and new thoughts are available!!!  

People in a Dream Sequence are stuck in a mental pattern, A jam! 

Where new thoughts and movement can't get in. 

They are stuck between present time and past reality. 
They are Not based in present day reality! 
For a person in a Dream Sequence time stands still yet the world moves forward around them. 
No new can come in. 
They cant & haven't grown. 
They are on a loop. 
Kinda like a song on loop, playing over and over again. 
The song never ends! 
Reality and day to day life passes while they continue playing and repeating over & over the same unhealthy relationship patterns. 

When you are in a Dream Sequence you are on a stationary bike going nowhere fast!

It is called a sequence bc it lasts for YEARS and builds over time. This is not a weekend trip. This is being stuck in the same dream world for years.  

People in a Dream Sequence have put a stop to connecting with reality & truth. 

Their thoughts are not clear and have almost a murky swamp like consciousness.  

Being in a dream sequence stunts your personal growth. 

As time passes and your physical body gets older your mind is stuck in the past. 
Living in a false reality. 
Stuck in this dream state unknowingly... ...

The person in the Dream Sequence Does Not Know they are in a Dream Sequence!!! 
They are not challenging themselves! 

No Checks & Balances?!?! 

Nobody is challenging them to shift their thinking?! 

The record is skipping & they are doing nothing! They are stuck in time playing the same song over & over on loop.  


Get yourself out of this loop! 
Dream Sequences can be interrupted. 
To interrupt the pattern the person in the Dream Sequence must first acknowledge that they are in one!  

Then help can be sought after.  
You have to let NEW in. New people, New challenges, New thoughts & New possibilities. Then you can Wake Up from the Dream Sequence! 

Many times people tried to help Grey Gardens. The Edie's called it "raids" when the Health Department would come to check up on them. Grey Gardens is a great name for their estate bc everything was Grey much like their mental state, their Dream Sequence prevented them from growing!  


Today, think about Dream Sequences. Are you in one? Have you ever been in one? Do you have any family or know someone in a Dream Sequence???

The importance of understanding what a Dream Sequence is will help you prevent one. Keep your thoughts active & moving. Joy! Newness! Life! Excitement for the future! These are the things that keep you from being in a Dream Sequence. Surround yourself with healthy people who challenge you. 

Checks & Balances is key!!! Keep those close to you who will tell you when you are wrong & who you can tell the same. It is more important to have someone be honest with you then to agree with you. 

xoxo