Every month we get a balance statement from our bank stating the amount and activity of our bank accounts. We read it & check that everything is accurate. We take more time in our lives reviewing our financial standing than our standing in our relationships.
No Wo-man is an island! ;) Are you accountable in your relationships?
Your ability to be held accountable for your actions in your relationships is called Accountability. So I ask again, Are you accountable in your relationships? The only way we could be, is if we reviewed them, Ever :)
So we have to take a cold hard look at WHO is most important to us!?! Too often we let those that matter most slip away. Bc we are busy, we don't have time, They Never called us! The excuses go on & on.
At the end of the day: We have an account with each person we know. Every relationship you have, has an Unspoken account.
Mother-Daughter Account, Father-Daughter Account, Step Mother- Daughter Account, Friend-Friend Account, Sister-Sister Account, Sister-Brother Account, Niece-Uncle Account, Granddaughter-Grandmother Account, Cousin-Cousin Account....
Are you depositing enough into each relationship's bank account?
Every new years I do what I like to call a Relationship Reality Check: I write out all of my family members and my friends, & I evaluate who I need to reach out to? Who I have grown apart from & why? Who I am no longer connected to? Who needs TLC? Who do I love but can't have in my life at this time bc they are toxic? Who have I pursued but hasn't reciprocated? Who has pursued me & I haven't reciprocated?
This is a way to keep account of my relationships. This is an honest reflection of the standings of my relationships.
We need people & they need us! Let's make sure that we are giving ourselves & others the best of us!
Take account. Today. Create your Relationship Reality Check! On a piece of paper, down the margin write a list of all of your friends. Next to their names write out how you can help the friendship, what is the status-still best friends, grown apart , want more of them in your life? Then take another piece of paper and write a list of every member of your family & do the same.
At the end of both lists make assessments. Be honest. Again, This is an honest reflection of the standings of your relationships. This will help your ability to take responsibility in your relationship. It doesn't matter How you got here, what matters is the ACTION you will take.
The family & friends that need TLC, REACH out to! Send a card, call, or a poke ;) & those that you have grown apart from, say a prayer that they have safe travels and send them off with Love. I usually do this process while I light a candle & at the end I pray for everyone I have written down. I go down the lists and read their names out loud & say what I pray for each one of them. Then I blow the candle out & release it to the Universe with Love :)
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