Retell Therapy

Did you read that wrong? Was it a typo & meant to say retail therapy?

Um Duh...I know how to spel ;) 

I meant to type: RETELL Therapy!!! 

Bc this kinda therapy will put you in more debt than a zillion retail therapy sessions! Even if it's a shopping spree with borrowed money on a credit card with a 25% interest rate! This kind of therapy will cause you tons more in emotional dept!!!

What is Retell Therapy?!? 

You have an unpleasant run in with your neighbor and you tell 10 of your friends & closest strangers the encounter. You have a terrible waiter at your local bistro & this is the story you tell for the next 6 months at dinner parties. Your college room mate cheated on her LSAT & 8 years later you still gossip with your hairdresser about it! 

K....

Get my drift.

Let's assume that you are retelling these stories for healing purposes & you are hoping that by telling others they will have some insight.

What a burden!!! & a downer!! Bc you have led them into the supporting actress role of nodding to Your f*cked up story!

AND You have halted the conversation. 

By retelling negative encounters you have literally stopped the flow of conversation. Bc what are the options for the other person's response: "Oh my gosh! That's crazy. Can't believe that happened to you. No...they didn't...they did...Really?! Yeah..yeah..."

Now what?!? 

The conversation has ended! 

Yowza! 

Or Maybe they also believe in Retell Therapy...

So now it becomes an exchange of stories: "You think you had a f*cked up experience?!? Well listen to mine..."

Now a great brunch just became a serving of One Upmanship of f*cked up stories! 

Ugh. BORING!!!!

It's like sitting at a dining table & reading snide Yelp reviews about YOUR OWN LIFE THAT YOU HAVE WRITTEN!!!

You wouldn't do that! So why reenact that kind of negative flow of conversation?

The worst is, your most importance audience is hearing the same negative drama filled story Over & Over again. It's draining....To YOU!!!! YOU are your most important audience! & you have to hear yourself tell the same unhappy story over & over...

While it's being told you are bringing yourself back to that unhappy moment in time! Why use your imagination & story telling times for unhappy lessons?!?!

This is all past talk. There is no new discovery in the now. Def Not fun positive chatty moving forward in today talk. 

No more Retell Therapy. It doesn't serve you or your audience bc trust me they are Boooored! 

Bc Truth is, the story you are retelling IS OVER. 

It already happened.... 

Now here you are Today!

Aren't there interesting things to talk of now?

Why are you choosing to put on a previously taped performance of you, when here you are LIVE? 

Are you scared in the moment?

It's okay! We are ALL terrified.

But join us here.

Bc in the now is TRUTH.

It's scary to not have your past talk to chatter over but think of the possible NEW topics in the NOW!!!!!

You put yourself in emotional debt by continually telling yourself and others the same unpleasant events Over & Over & Over Again!

Today, take a second to think of the last time you vented to someone about the particulars of an unpleasant encounter: How many people did you tell that same story to?  Did it make you feel better after you spoke of it? Do you have negative "Go To Stories"? 

No need to put yourself in emotional debt! Tell yourself and others positive fun stories that make them happy :) 

Even if it's a juicy GOSSIP dripping story, tell it once and then move on & think of better ways to spend your energy!

Okay...maybe just tell me the gossip ;)

Xo