Ever feel so hurt by an event that happened TO you that you just feel lost, sad, & like humanity just doesn't make sense?!?
Sometimes it's the small events that can push us over the edge.
That's what happened for me...
I work very hard on behalf of my customers selling xyz.
This one customer hired me and the reason I was chosen she said was bc I wasn't "Scuzzy".
I was warned by this customer numerous times to be honest & not like everyone else, just dont be "Scuzzy" I was told.
Soo...
I got her and her husband a sweet deal. They were going to make a profit Above & beyond what they had expected!!!
I told her and her husband that in order to keep this buyer on board, we had to be honest with them with what was about to happen: Another identical xyz was going to go on sale.
I said to her and her husband, once xyz comes to market it is better that I tell the buyer about it then he finds it himself and then asks questions, feels confused, lied to, etc.
Honesty is the hardest approach in business but it is the best approach.
Bc then you are the point person for the information and instead of your buyer finding out the information and coming to their own Uneducated conclusions; I would be the one helping aid in their processing of this comparatively newer item for sale for substantially less money.
Which is a big fete bc this buyer had already signed up to purchase their more expensive version of the seemingly same thing.
SOOO
During a phone conversation, I tell the couple that hired me to be "honest, not "Scuzzy", my plan of being "honest and not "Scuzzy" with the buyer of their xyz.
We get off the phone and One hour later I get an email asking:
WHY would we be honest?!?!
The husband began his rant with "I consider myself an honest person BUT....
Everyone else isn't being honest so why should I be?!?"
"If a store is charging more $ than it's competitor, would the store owner tell the shopper they can get the same thing elsewhere cheaper"
His rant went on & on...
He cc'd my boss on this aggressive email.
I had always had a great working relationship with this couple. I was in constant contact with his wife.
I was able to get them 15% more Ca$h for their xyz.
That wasn't what was CELEBRATED & rejoiced!!!
No parade in my honor.
Nope.
Instead, my boss gets a tattle tail email on: Why I should NOT be Honest & How they do not agree with my approach to being honest with the buyer.
They feared losing the deal & the extra Ca$h.
And soooo...
Honesty was no longer welcome.
My heart was broken.
For some reason with this one I was side swipped!
Truly.
Bc here was a seemingly self proclaimed hippy dippy couple not interested in $$$, Fighting for me to be dishonest.
It was a disconnect.
I was so sad.
Bc I liked them.
I believed in them.
I believed who they said they were.
Then the $$$ came...
Things changed!
They became protective & scared that honesty would Kill the deal. That honesty would highlight all of the things they wanted to hide.
The ones that pleaded for me Not to be "Scuzzy", were now Scuzzy.
It sounds stupid but...I was upset for days bc of this.
Until finally I came to this conclusion, AGAIN:
People SHOW you who they are.
This couple TOLD me all along who they were. & I believed them. Once $$$ came into the mix, they SHOWED me who they were.
Today, think of the last time you felt Let Down :( What upset you more: not seeing it coming? The surprise? Shock? Or knowing it could happen and you let it happen anyway?
It's Going to happen:
We will be side swiped unexpectedly by Dumb Dumbs.
But...
It isn't What happens that matters, it's how we Process what happened that matters!
Bc...
People are Going to Let Us Down.
It is Our Responsibilty to process it with HOPE & LOVE :)
That's why I needed a couple of days to process it all.
Find the light in the darkness.
It's there!
& I'm smiling back at you from it :))))
Xo
Ps: Another reason I felt I couldn't write on October 9th was bc obv I can't say the deets of What xyz is ;) Hope you understand :)
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