Buh buh BOUNDARIES

Buh 

buh

BOUNDARIES...

Imagine a baseball game without a diamond. 

Imagine a tic tac toe game without #.

Imagine a dartboard without a bulls eye. 

These lines are used to set the perimeters for a game. 

Um...but Betsy, "Life isn't a game!"

Hmm... 

Or is it? 

When you are playing kickball on the street and the ball goes out, what does everyone scream???

"Out of bounds!"

Why is it so clear in our playtime yet so distorted in Real Life? 

Wouldn't boundaries HELP?!?

If we were as clear with how we expect to be treated by others within every relationship as we are when someone crosses the line...in a football game, we would be happy! 

Obv there are grays. The goal isn't to be the person who is Soooo black and white about everything that you are mad at the world bc everyone doesn't fit into your net.

But...

With parents. 

With children. 

With family. 

With husbands. 

With boyfriends.

With girlfriends. 

With friends. 

With dr's.

With lawyers. 

With clients. 

With bosses. 

Buh buh BOUNDARIES 

Need to be set. 

Bc those are the rules of the game you have set up as acceptable to deal with you. 

Without BOUNDARIES you will be annoyed constantly. 

With BOUNDARIES. You are clear and have articulated your rules of engagement. 

Today, does your mother expect to speak to you everyday? Does it drive you batty!? Do you have that one friend who thinks it's perfectly okay to borrow $ only to never pay you back? What about that friend that comes late to every meeting you ever had, never apologizes and expects you to be okay with it?! Or that person in your life that there is always a crisis and somehow you were nominated to fix it?!?

Buh buh BOUNDARIES. 

Say what you want differently. 

Maybe it's as simple as: " I know you want to talk everyday mom, but I'm hella busy and simply can't! So let's talk once a week. 

Try it out! Who knows...things might stay "In Bounds" ;) 

Xoxo