BIG Life?!

"Your life is as BIG as the hard conversations you are willing to have."

K...

So...

I said that verbatim for the first time in Couple's Therepy last year to my ex husband. It was our last therapy session together. He couldn't articulate how he was feeling. He just kept avoiding explaining how he felt. The therapist kept asking and asking in different ways. My ex was not good at communicating. This he has admitted post divorce again and again. 

I got frustrated and turned and said this to him..."Your life is as big as the hard conversations you are willing to have."

He wasn't able to have hard conversations. So rather than just telling me what he wanted he left. 

He left. 

It was easier for him to jet than have a real honest conversation with me. 

Isn't that cray?!!!??

Since, then I have been saying that quote. In my head, or out loud at times when I DO NOT want to have these hard conversations. 

But...

I want a BIG Life. 

I want an Honest existence. 

I want to be able to communicate well with those I care deeply about. 

Today, How BIG is your life?

Do you welcome those hard conversations? Or are you a puss and run?!!!

I had this uhmazing hard a** conversation and I left feeling heard and having heard. 

My life is getting BIGGER :)))

Yay! 

Xoxo

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