Communication 101: INCOMPLETE

Been working my ass off to be clear headed and concise in communications.

A little over 2 years ago, if confronted I would get super defensive and take arguments to the death. 

After a lot of therapy, alanon, self-reflecting, and praying for a shift, finally happened for me last year. I became able to calmly tell the person I was with how I am feeling. 

This is HUGE. 

For me. 

For my frame of reference. 

For my sanity. 

My sponsor would always say some version of, “Do you want to be sane or right?”

Ugh...

Freakn hard to get that through this thick skull. 

Proud to say, I am Killing it!!!!

I am feeling my feelings. Am able to say them at a respectful decibel. No yelling or tantrums or outbursts or “justified responses.” Rather, treating those I care about with respect. 

Uhmazing!!!

But...

New hurdle.

Yikes. 

So...I spoke to my Sponsor earlier and basically How you say how you feel is super important. (got it!) 

WHEN and WHERE also needs to be considered. 

Grrrrrrrr!!! 

Working on that part. 

Bc...

I am so used to just saying how I feel that to me that’s my normal. 

Shifting this ain’t easy. 

But...

In the exact words of my Sponsor: 

“Expressing How you feel in an appropriate manner, When you feel it in an appropriate manner, Where it is presented needs to be in an appropriate place,” ALL this matters.

For my serenity. 

This ain’t ez!!!

For me. 

The alternative doesn’t work though. Which means I am back to working my ass off on the next step towards serenity. 

Kinda uhmazing!!! 

Today, What are you working on?!? Any life changing communication techniques that you got under way?! 

If not, isn’t now the time to start? I mean damn I would hate to accept that I can’t communicate myself clearly in any aspect of my life. And yet, for years I have struggled with it. 

enJOYn me on this journey ;) 

It ain’t ez. & Def the only way to get where we want! Happiness :) 

Xoxo