💥 Bam! I rewrite my relationships. 💡

Rereading Shonda Rhimes book, “Year of Yes.”

Onto my second time reading it. Just super powerful. Shonda confronts her demons. It’s inspiring. 

The lesson vibrating the most clearly for me, is the one where she realized that she rewrote her friendships. 

She had had “friends.”

Realized that she had not accepted them for who they actually were. 

She added information to them. 

Rewrote them. 

I do this. 

It’s a gift to see the good in people.

But...

Dangerous to lie to ourselves. 

Bam!

I add qualities to people that aren’t there. I do this to make up for other’s short comings. If I feel like they didn’t do as they promised I make up stories to fill the gap. Sounds nice enough. But...

It’s terrible Bc then I never truly see and accept the truth. Over time, it turns to resentment Bc underlying I am feeling let down. 

Takes a clear view to see this. Honest acceptance of others. And ourselves. Catching ourselves as we are doing this! 

Shonda said this in her book and a lightbulb went on. 

Damn. I do this too. 

Being a writer is a fantastic skill. Grateful I have it. 

But...

When used to change reality, not the best use of a god given talent. 

Today, Do you rewrite reality?! To cover up disappointment? To fit someone into the person you cast them to be?!? Think hard on this. 

Sassy sidekick friend who really isn’t that. At all. Are you seeing people as they are. Truly are. No adding your hopes and wishes to em?!?

Xo

Ps: Listening to Shonda’s book is fabulous Bc she is the narrator too!